It is wonderful to be loved, but it’s profound to be understood ❤

“It’s wonderful to be loved, but it’s profound to be understood.” Ellen DeGeneres

When I first heard this quote, it instantly resonated with me. In fact to me, to be loved is to be understood. Love devoid of that deeper understanding is not love. It is when everything about me is out in the open that I appreciate that love that sticks around.

I have always loved Ellen DeGeneres ❤ and the Oprah interview gave my love for her more substance because I can say I then understood her more. Following that interview, I can say that I have a deeper appreciation of how purpose and vision for life can appear as a setup and trap sometimes. She is a self-confessed people-pleaser and all she wanted was to be loved by everyone but she had to “choose” a life of a gay comedian at a time when intolerance towards gay people was rife.

The lesson I learnt from the show was that if I truly want “people” to love me, I must then present them with the total package of the authentic me, otherwise I’d never be content with the love I receive as a photocopy of the real me. Even if it means only 2 people would love the authentic me, I’d know that their love was real and meant for me.Ellen De Generes

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I do not possess one of the sharpest memories and the habit of forgetting stuff seems to be getting worse instead of better. Shonda Rhimes, in her book 'A Year of Yes', captures our problem clearly when she says, about her memory: "My brain, she is old. Really old. Gumming-her-food old... My memory sucks... Names are forgotten, details of one event are switched with another... The insides of my brain are a fading photograph, stories and images drifting away to places unknown. Leaving patches of nothingness where a name or an event or a location should be... My memory is ever-so-slowly being replaced by blank spaces. The details of my life are disappearing. The paintings are being stolen off the walls of my brain. It’s exhausting. And confusing. And sometimes funny. And often sad." I, therefore, rely on tools to capture anything I consider important to remember so that I can easily come back to them and remind myself. This serves as that space for me. Anything I capture here is for my benefit later on. Later on is sometimes that same day, the next day, a week later, a month later, etc. ♥️

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