It is wonderful to be loved, but it’s profound to be understood ❤

“It’s wonderful to be loved, but it’s profound to be understood.” Ellen DeGeneres

When I first heard this quote, it instantly resonated with me. In fact to me, to be loved is to be understood. Love devoid of that deeper understanding is not love. It is when everything about me is out in the open that I appreciate that love that sticks around.

I have always loved Ellen DeGeneres ❤ and the Oprah interview gave my love for her more substance because I can say I then understood her more. Following that interview, I can say that I have a deeper appreciation of how purpose and vision for life can appear as a setup and trap sometimes. She is a self-confessed people-pleaser and all she wanted was to be loved by everyone but she had to “choose” a life of a gay comedian at a time when intolerance towards gay people was rife.

The lesson I learnt from the show was that if I truly want “people” to love me, I must then present them with the total package of the authentic me, otherwise I’d never be content with the love I receive as a photocopy of the real me. Even if it means only 2 people would love the authentic me, I’d know that their love was real and meant for me.Ellen De Generes

Get Up and Start (Again)

Most of us – those that tend to “hibernate” in Winter – are right now, on our back foot as we crawl out from the various holes we went into in Winter. Chances are quite a few balls relating to our health plans were dropped resulting in us going a few steps back in various aspects of our dreams.

At times like these, my mind races back to a message in a quote I heard many years ago. This quote always pushes me to get up from any hole I might find myself and reclaim my willpower to pursue my dreams:

The graveyard is the richest place on earth, because it is here that you will find all the hopes and dreams that were never fulfilled, the books that were never written, the songs that were never sung, the inventions that were never shared, the cures that were never discovered, all because someone was too afraid to take that first step, keep with the problem, or determined to carry our their dream.

Les Brown

Right now, I realise that it doesn’t matter what I didn’t accomplish yesterday. It doesn’t matter that I sometimes entertain thoughts of defeat and even believe that nothing would ever change.

It matters that I am alive and not one of the statistics that fertilizes the graveyards of the world. So, I choose again and I am pulling myself back onto the saddle. I focus on taking action today towards what is important to me.

W. H. Murray once said:

This may sound too simple, but is great in consequence. Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favour all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his way.

He finished it off by referencing one of my favourite quotations attributed to Johan Von Goethe:

“Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it!.”

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So, here I start again. I am committed and there is no hesitation because I don’t want to contribute to the riches buried in graveyards. I bring with me the energy of an Enneagram Type 3 personality and the following strengths from my Gallup Strength Finder Assessment Results:

  1. Focus
  2. Positivity
  3. Achiever
  4. Competition
  5. Activator

You better watch this space 🤗

“Boldness has genius, power and magic in it”

To access the tools referenced above:

https://www.enneagraminstitute.com

https://www.gallupstrengthscenter.com/home/en-us/cliftonstrengths-how-it-works

Motivation is always availed to whoever asks for it ❤ (20/09/’16)

I really did not want to go for my morning workout this day and I had lots of valid reasons why I should not. But then I remembered the goals I had set just a mere 2 days prior. I also remembered how crucial consistency was to me and the success I was aiming for. I remembered the pants I want to fit into and how great the vision of me in 8 weeks time was and I recommitted myself for the day.

So, in spite of the fact that I had forgotten my iPod at home, I went to the Balalaika hotel gymnasium not very sure what I would do except show up. After a 10 minute warm up on an elliptical climber, a treadmill opened for me to get onto. Because I had no music to listen to, I doubted that I would last long on it and already I began to justify how another set of 10 minutes would be better than nothing.

Fortunately I now had access to the remote control for the TV at the gym and I changed to another channel. In the very next channel, Karate Kid Chapter 6 was playing. Oh boy! That happens to be one of my favourite movies and I had watched it a few times before already. I just knew that I had found the missing motivation for the day. Before I knew it, I had been walking for 28 minutes at a good pace without feeling bored at all.

There generally is a lot I love about China; from the great Wall of China, the martial arts and the architecture of their homes to the food. The pose in this picture invites the athlete in me to aim for that kick someday. Could it be by the end of this 8 weeks challenge 😍

This scene moved me close to tears because I could identify with the hero in Dre Parker. Here, after having his leg broken deliberately, he is telling his coach Mr. Han why he still wanted to go back and fight in that condition. He says his main reason is because he is still “scared”.

In the journey to win the fight against food addiction and self deprioritisation, I am mindful of the fact that there will be times when life will literally break me and those would be times when getting up to go back and fight would not make sense. At those times, I would call upon the heroic Dre Parker in me and say, “for exactly the reason that I feel like giving up and eating unconsciously and just slouching on the sofa, I shall get up and go fight back until I love every moment of the new healthy lifestyle”.

This photo shows me what 99% commitment can do. At this stage Dre Parker was not thinking about the pain in his leg, he was totally focused on winning the fight in front of him. I love the look of intent, determination and presence in his eyes.

Push ups! my current biggest enemy. I recommitted to working on building my upper body strength.